25: Financial Infidelity with Adam Kol

Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn:

• The importance of talking about money with your partner and why it can be so difficult to do

• Adam Kol explains the biggest financial challenges and conflicts that couples experience

• Examining the assumptions you make about money, your partner, and yourself

• How to come to a financial agreement with your partner—and why jumping straight to the numbers isn’t the best place to start

• Strategies for effectively managing any fear and shame about your financial situation

• Financial infidelity: what is it, why does it happen, and how can you evaluate better options?

• Where is the line between your right to privacy and your obligation to share your finances with your partner?

• Adam discusses how conflicts about money can result in positive outcomes

In this episode…

Money is a taboo subject in any situation—but when it comes to relationships, talking about finances can feel downright impossible. With financial stress being one of the top causes of divorce, it’s no wonder that most of us would rather avoid the topic altogether. But, according to Couples Financial Coach Adam Kol, skirting the conversation often only makes things worse. 

With years of experience helping couples sort out the messy details around love and money, Adam Kol will be the first to tell you that avoiding these conversations is a quick way to start building resentment. As he says, perhaps we should be less afraid of what happens when we have these conversations—and more afraid of what happens when we don’t. Fortunately, Adam has the tools to help you start talking so that you can keep your relationship and finances healthy.

Join Dr. Marie Murphy in this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me as she sits down with Couples Financial Coach, Adam Kol, to discuss why people dread having conversations about money with their partners. Together they talk about why financial communication is so important, the benefits of opening up, and the consequences of avoidance. Plus, Adam explains how to get these conversations started and offers some pointers on navigating common mistakes. Stay tuned! 

Resources Mentioned in this episode

• AHK Coaching

• Adam Kol on LinkedIn

• Adam Kol on Instagram

• Adam Kol on YouTube

• The Equal Partners Podcast

• Love & Money Quiz

• Dr. Marie Murphy

• Schedule an Introductory Coaching Session with Dr. Marie Murphy

• Dr. Marie Murphy on LinkedIn

About Adam Kol 

Adam Kol is a Couples Financial Coach who helps couples find financial clarity, peace of mind, stability, and partnership. In his coaching practice, Adam draws on over a decade of experience as a Certified Mediator, Financial Advisor, and former Tax Attorney. In addition to this, Adam is an experienced community organizer for social justice, a lifelong musician, and the host of The Equal Partners Podcast.

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Dr. Marie Murphy provides shame-free, blame-free, and non-judgmental relationship coaching. She draws from different philosophical traditions and approaches in order to better understand the human condition and the different types of professional assistance that can be germane to people in complicated relationship situations.

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