41: Clarifying What You Want in a Relationship

Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn:

• Dr. Marie Murphy explains how she improved her relationship when couples therapy didn’t work

• The four orienting points that can help you clarify what you want in a relationship

• Dr. Murphy shares an exercise for identifying what is really important to you in life and why

• How to distill what you want or expect from your partner and relationship

• What can you do to give yourself the things you want — instead of looking to someone else to fulfill your needs?

• Making the “Complaint List”

• Dr. Murphy gives an example from her relationship that illustrates why it’s important to examine your negative feelings

• How can you shift your focus onto the things that matter most?

In this episode… 

If you aren’t getting what you want out of your relationship, what can you do to make a change? Couples therapy is one option, but it doesn’t always work for every relationship. Fortunately, there are other ways of improving your relationship and satisfying your individual needs.

According to Dr. Marie Murphy, there is no simple, one-size-fits-all solution — and no one but you can tell you what you need. As she says, you’ll have to decide for yourself what’s truly right for you. However, there are techniques that can help you identify your wants and desires and learn the real motives behind them. With this clarity, you can start prioritizing your own needs and gain insight into how you should move forward in your relationship.

In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy shares her expert strategies for clarifying what you want from a romantic relationship. As she says, knowing your individual needs and desires can help you improve your relationship with your partner and yourself — and positively impact your future relationships, as well. So, grab a pen and a sheet of paper, and get ready to follow Dr. Murphy through her valuable coaching exercises.

Resources Mentioned in this episode

• Dr. Marie Murphy

• Schedule an Introductory Coaching Session with Dr. Marie Murphy

• Dr. Marie Murphy on LinkedIn

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This episode is brought to you by Marie Murphy PhD Relationship Coaching.

Dr. Marie Murphy provides shame-free, blame-free, and non-judgmental relationship coaching. She draws from different philosophical traditions and approaches in order to better understand the human condition and the different types of professional assistance that can be germane to people in complicated relationship situations.

To learn more about her and her relationship coaching practice, visit www.mariemurphyphd.com today and schedule an introductory coaching session with Dr. Marie Murphy to begin the process of resolving your infidelity situation in a way that's truly right for you.