50: The Joys and Sorrows of Adultery with Mona Lisa

Here’s a glimpse of what you’ll learn:

• Mona Lisa discusses her marriage of over 20 years ​​— and what led to her “dead bedroom”

• Mona and Dr. Marie Murphy acknowledge the shame and stigma around divorce

• The deeper connection of an affair based on friendship

• Mona talks about discovering sexual freedom and femininity from her affair

• The dark side of adultery: ending a relationship

• How can you digest difficult feelings in your affair or relationships?

• Why Mona started writing about her experiences with infidelity

• How adultery can become an addictive lifestyle and the consequences of making the choice

• Mona talks about the challenges of her hidden success

In this episode…

It’s easy to feel encapsulated in an adultery bubble. With all the stigma around infidelity, where can you go to speak about the feelings you have? Is there a place to escape judgment and shame?

Mona Lisa has created a safe space for adulterers, like herself, to connect without fear. For Mona, infidelity is empowering and provides her with a sense of freedom — but it is not without pain and other difficult emotions. She knows other people are navigating the same feelings, and that’s why she believes connecting and sharing her experiences is so crucial.  

In this episode of Your Secret is Safe With Me, Dr. Marie Murphy talks with Mona Lisa, the founder of The Scarlet Letter and P.S. I Hate You, about navigating an adulterous lifestyle. Mona talks about the rollercoaster of emotions that comes with having an affair, the excitement of limerence energy in a new relationship, and the stigma around cheating and divorce. Stay tuned.

Resources Mentioned in this episode

• Mona Lisa on Medium

• Mona Lisa on Patreon

• The Scarlett Letter

• P.S. I Hate You

• “Why I Cheat On My Husband — and I Don't Plan to Stop” by Mona Lisa

• Teresa J. Conway

• Chump Lady

• “In Defense of ‘New Relationship Energy’” on Your Secret is Safe With Me

• Dr. Marie Murphy

• Schedule an Introductory Coaching Session with Dr. Marie Murphy

• Dr. Marie Murphy on LinkedIn

About Mona Lisa

Mona Lisa is a middle-aged adulteress and the founder of the Medium publications The Scarlet Letter and P.S. I Hate You. Mona writes about every facet of adultery, from the joy to the pain. She has published over 300 articles and has garnered over 250,000 views and more than 2,000 followers on Medium. Mona’s writing helps readers navigate dead bedrooms and affairs without fear.

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This episode is brought to you by Marie Murphy PhD Relationship Coaching.

Dr. Marie Murphy provides shame-free, blame-free, and non-judgmental relationship coaching. She draws from different philosophical traditions and approaches in order to better understand the human condition and the different types of professional assistance that can be germane to people in complicated relationship situations.

To learn more about her and her relationship coaching practice, visit www.mariemurphyphd.com today and schedule an introductory coaching session with Dr. Marie Murphy to begin the process of resolving your infidelity situation in a way that's truly right for you.